Comments on: Did I rub You the Wrong Way Yesterday? http://www.jessicainrome.com/2007/08/27/did-i-rub-you-the-wrong-way-yesterday/ an American girl in Rome, Italy Thu, 28 Aug 2008 06:24:36 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.1 By: Star http://www.jessicainrome.com/2007/08/27/did-i-rub-you-the-wrong-way-yesterday/#comment-345 Star Sat, 08 Sep 2007 14:53:18 +0000 http://www.jessicainrome.com/2007/08/27/did-i-rub-you-the-wrong-way-yesterday/#comment-345 Whether or not it's "fair" I think we all have an idea of which accents appeal more or less to us. It's like music - some of it just sounds better to each of us- you can't really avoid it just because it isn't PC. I remember after spending a few months in italy I was near a McDonald's in Florence and I heard a deep, deep southern American accent -- it confused the hell out of me. I was so used to hearing italian and then to hear that (I actually enjoy southern accents btw but it was so unexpected) just rubbed my ears the wrong way. What surprises me about your angry noter is that if she's so defensive of everyone being equal and not discriminated against, then why is she using the approach of "I've been here longer than you've been alive" ? That's something my elementary-aged students would say. "I'm right because i was here first." As if that improves the validity of her point. Whenever you live abroad there are always going to be peers who claim to be more local, more acclimated than yourself. ugh. Whether or not it’s “fair” I think we all have an idea of which accents appeal more or less to us. It’s like music - some of it just sounds better to each of us- you can’t really avoid it just because it isn’t PC.
I remember after spending a few months in italy I was near a McDonald’s in Florence and I heard a deep, deep southern American accent — it confused the hell out of me. I was so used to hearing italian and then to hear that (I actually enjoy southern accents btw but it was so unexpected) just rubbed my ears the wrong way.
What surprises me about your angry noter is that if she’s so defensive of everyone being equal and not discriminated against, then why is she using the approach of “I’ve been here longer than you’ve been alive” ? That’s something my elementary-aged students would say. “I’m right because i was here first.” As if that improves the validity of her point. Whenever you live abroad there are always going to be peers who claim to be more local, more acclimated than yourself. ugh.

]]> By: charlie http://www.jessicainrome.com/2007/08/27/did-i-rub-you-the-wrong-way-yesterday/#comment-332 charlie Fri, 07 Sep 2007 18:43:24 +0000 http://www.jessicainrome.com/2007/08/27/did-i-rub-you-the-wrong-way-yesterday/#comment-332 Oh blah, that person obviously doesn't know you. I hate misunderstandings over the internet, they happen so easily! That said, please go to the Apple store and get me a MacBook. Thank you! Oh blah, that person obviously doesn’t know you. I hate misunderstandings over the internet, they happen so easily! That said, please go to the Apple store and get me a MacBook. Thank you!

]]> By: Rebecca http://www.jessicainrome.com/2007/08/27/did-i-rub-you-the-wrong-way-yesterday/#comment-324 Rebecca Fri, 07 Sep 2007 01:52:34 +0000 http://www.jessicainrome.com/2007/08/27/did-i-rub-you-the-wrong-way-yesterday/#comment-324 Wow. Some people really get offended over nothing. I saw nothing wrong with your post. Besides, this is your blog and you have the freedom to write what you choose. Don't let a bad comment get you down (and great response by the way). Wow. Some people really get offended over nothing. I saw nothing wrong with your post. Besides, this is your blog and you have the freedom to write what you choose. Don’t let a bad comment get you down (and great response by the way).

]]> By: sara http://www.jessicainrome.com/2007/08/27/did-i-rub-you-the-wrong-way-yesterday/#comment-293 sara Mon, 03 Sep 2007 15:59:46 +0000 http://www.jessicainrome.com/2007/08/27/did-i-rub-you-the-wrong-way-yesterday/#comment-293 Don't worry about it. You can't please all the people all the time. Your blog, your rules, your right to say what is on your mind. I don't think you said anything bad. Maybe because you used the word *fat*. That always seems to ignite. I get embarassed when I hear americans saying something rude or offensive, just as my husband gets embaraased with rude or loud italians when we travel. I however, do get excited when I hear english, and try to always talk to them. There aren't many english speaking locals in my hood. So, I like it. hehe I lived in WA and San Diego, so I know both accents. And like, I am so sure. That comment was, like so ruuuude. hehehe Don’t worry about it. You can’t please all the people all the time. Your blog, your rules, your right to say what is on your mind. I don’t think you said anything bad. Maybe because you used the word *fat*. That always seems to ignite.

I get embarassed when I hear americans saying something rude or offensive, just as my husband gets embaraased with rude or loud italians when we travel. I however, do get excited when I hear english, and try to always talk to them. There aren’t many english speaking locals in my hood. So, I like it. hehe

I lived in WA and San Diego, so I know both accents. And like, I am so sure. That comment was, like so ruuuude. hehehe

]]> By: kiki http://www.jessicainrome.com/2007/08/27/did-i-rub-you-the-wrong-way-yesterday/#comment-268 kiki Tue, 28 Aug 2007 21:03:14 +0000 http://www.jessicainrome.com/2007/08/27/did-i-rub-you-the-wrong-way-yesterday/#comment-268 Like, gag me with a spoon! I like, totally know what you're talking about :) Hah. I wouldn't put too much worry into any of it - you made your point clear so let this person stew on that! All I wanna know is OMG, where is this H&M that you speak of? One closest to the center because I must go there in October. xo kiki Like, gag me with a spoon! I like, totally know what you’re talking about
Hah. I wouldn’t put too much worry into any of it - you made your point clear so let this person stew on that!

All I wanna know is OMG, where is this H&M that you speak of? One closest to the center because I must go there in October.

xo
kiki

]]> By: Lisa http://www.jessicainrome.com/2007/08/27/did-i-rub-you-the-wrong-way-yesterday/#comment-267 Lisa Tue, 28 Aug 2007 15:53:00 +0000 http://www.jessicainrome.com/2007/08/27/did-i-rub-you-the-wrong-way-yesterday/#comment-267 I understand what your saying jessica! Sometimes you just want to protect certain things that mankes italy italy and that would be this mall where you often don't find tourists. i don't think you said anything wrong we all feel that way about certain things that are important to us I understand what your saying jessica! Sometimes you just want to protect certain things that mankes italy italy and that would be this mall where you often don’t find tourists. i don’t think you said anything wrong we all feel that way about certain things that are important to us

]]> By: Sierra http://www.jessicainrome.com/2007/08/27/did-i-rub-you-the-wrong-way-yesterday/#comment-266 Sierra Tue, 28 Aug 2007 15:48:42 +0000 http://www.jessicainrome.com/2007/08/27/did-i-rub-you-the-wrong-way-yesterday/#comment-266 I enjoy reading your blog so don't let one isolated negative comment make you edit or justify what you have written. I most definately did not read the previous entry as being hateful. I enjoy reading your blog so don’t let one isolated negative comment make you edit or justify what you have written. I most definately did not read the previous entry as being hateful.

]]> By: Farfallina... a roam to Rome http://www.jessicainrome.com/2007/08/27/did-i-rub-you-the-wrong-way-yesterday/#comment-262 Farfallina... a roam to Rome Tue, 28 Aug 2007 05:51:54 +0000 http://www.jessicainrome.com/2007/08/27/did-i-rub-you-the-wrong-way-yesterday/#comment-262 Hmmm… sorry that happened to you Jessica. With blogs we receive a lot of support, but once in a while an ugly little note creeps in... Well sweetie, it could have been a British accent, Californian accent or even an accent from Venus or Mars, that really wasn't the point. To go into an authentic region where you expect Italian but to hear a LOUD foreigner (especially if they say "in myyyyyyy country things are better") is quite an experience, I tell you. It could have been ANY accent, but when they come from where WE come from, it touches a nerve inside. I don't know why… You go Jessica! Your honesty and a sense of humor is refreshing… This blog is your stage! Many want to hear your life story! To not hear an honest account of what you see day to day defeats the purpose of blogging! Hey, I'm writing from California and I didn't see the offense! Hmmm… sorry that happened to you Jessica. With blogs we receive a lot of support, but once in a while an ugly little note creeps in…

Well sweetie, it could have been a British accent, Californian accent or even an accent from Venus or Mars, that really wasn’t the point.

To go into an authentic region where you expect Italian but to hear a LOUD foreigner (especially if they say “in myyyyyyy country things are better” is quite an experience, I tell you.

It could have been ANY accent, but when they come from where WE come from, it touches a nerve inside. I don’t know why…

You go Jessica! Your honesty and a sense of humor is refreshing…

This blog is your stage! Many want to hear your life story! To not hear an honest account of what you see day to day defeats the purpose of blogging!

Hey, I’m writing from California and I didn’t see the offense!

]]> By: kataroma http://www.jessicainrome.com/2007/08/27/did-i-rub-you-the-wrong-way-yesterday/#comment-257 kataroma Mon, 27 Aug 2007 19:14:13 +0000 http://www.jessicainrome.com/2007/08/27/did-i-rub-you-the-wrong-way-yesterday/#comment-257 I'd probably have the same reaction if I heard Aussie accents at a shopping mall outside Rome. More a "what are they doing here?" thing than a snob thing. I don't hear Aussie accents often in my daily life here and the shock of hearing something which was once so familiar but now sounds completely exotic can be really something. I’d probably have the same reaction if I heard Aussie accents at a shopping mall outside Rome. More a “what are they doing here?” thing than a snob thing. I don’t hear Aussie accents often in my daily life here and the shock of hearing something which was once so familiar but now sounds completely exotic can be really something.

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